The pressure of the 90’s

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If you were born in the 90’s then I can bet you are under great pressure now. You know why? You are twenty-something and you are probably done with school (undergraduate). But one thing is missing…

You are not yet that perfect twenty-something chick/dude the world has painted for us.

You are still single, not working or working a meager job while your ‘mates’ have it all together. They have jobs that you can only dream of, perfect relationships/families, cars and landed properties yet you are still trying to find your feet in life. Worse still someone asks you the bold question:

“Where do you see yourself in 5years time?”

“Shuu…Right now, I can’t even see myself, I can’t find my feet to know where I am standing and you are talking of 5years time.”

Maybe you are even still living with your parents and according to social media, that’s a big crime.

Truth is, a lot of people will have their lives going the way they planned it while a lot of us will not. But hey, it’s okay to not know where you will be in 5 years time. Joseph didn’t! It’s okay to not know where you will be in 1year time. Don’t let all that sweet motivational talk rub you of the joy of living one day at a time.

As good as planning is, at the snap of a finger all you have planned for can take a swift turn in another direction. And there is a limit to what you can plan. As for me, I have realized that I cannot accurately plot the graph of my life. So now, I just plan so that God can have something to alter. I am not rigid, I am open and flexible to follow where He is leading me. After all, there was no way Joseph could have planned himself into the Palace, no way! And Moses? No way!

No man can successfully plan his life, we can only trust God. Some of us don’t even know what the next week, month or year holds for us, again, we can only trust God.

As I write to you, I was born in the 90’s and trust me, I feel you. I may not be going through the exact circumstances that have confronted you but you can be sure that I can totally relate. The spotlight is on us and the heat is at its peak. Sometimes we just stay in our room (if we have one) and crryyyyyy.

Other times, we neither have a room nor a shoulder to cry on…so we ‘man-up’ and keep moving.

So dearest friend born in the 90’s you are not alone. Don’t let social media, society or even parents put you in the pressure trap. One way to ensure this is to constantly remind yourself that you don’t have any mate in life… we may all be born in the 90’s but trust me, we are not mates.

You have no idea what I have been through in life, you don’t know my fears, struggles, scars, dreams or graces. You dont know my story so please stay on your lane and dont try to get me into the same box as you. I may be born in the 90’s but I am D.I.F.F.E.R.E.N.T.

Next time when they come to ask you those ambiguous questions- “When are you doing this and when are you doing that?” Tell them that you dont know. Let them say you are unserious. Good! It’s their opinion.

Lastly, dear parents, family members, friends, social media and the entire society; please allow us to run at our pace, let us live one day at a time. Let us rise, fall and learn. Let us laugh, cry and grow.

We are not perfect but we are constantly moving one step at a time.

Have a blessed week! No drama, No pressure!

Stay strong!